Each month, every woman gets a green waiver slip or a “get-out-of-jail-free” card. No matter what she does she can just pull out this card and she’s no longer responsible for anything she does……all because of PMS. Snapped your boyfriend’s head off because he didn’t say the right thing? Show him your waiver! Ate a whole carton of Ben & Jerry’s Coffee Heath Bar Crunch (my personal fav) ice cream because your cravings were just “unbearable”? Pull out your card! Sat on the couch all day because you just didn’t feel like doing anything? Wave that green slip high! Whatever it is, PMS made you do it.
Don’t get me wrong, I understand the cramps, the icky feeling you have for days, the sudden irritability, and the food cravings. When Aunt Flo comes to visit, I definitely tend to cry more, get huffy at little annoyances, and don’t even get me started on fried food. While I truly may be having those emotions and cravings, is submitting to them ok? Do we really have no control over our attitudes for about a week or is PMS just an excuse to indulge in sinful behavior?
During “The Curse,” we tend to act even more selfishly than normal. It’s what we want, it’s all about how we feel, and rarely do we think about those around us and how our attitudes are affecting them. We let our bodies and emotions tell us what to do instead of God. The woman controlled by PMS doesn’t think about others and instead says, “You’ll just have to deal with my behavior.” Scripture even talks about women just like these:
It is better to live in a corner of a roof than in a house shared with a contentious (argumentative) woman. Prov. 21:9
It is better to live in a desert land than with a disagreeable and vexing (agitated) woman. Prov. 21:19
A constant dripping on a day of steady rain and a contentious woman are alike; Prov. 27:15
They’re like Chinese water torture to their friends, husbands, boyfriends, or family, all because they’ve decided to neglect God’s teachings for a few days and satisfy their flesh.
But the woman controlled by the Spirit, at ALL times, offers a very different picture:
Also, that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control… Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control. 1 Tim. 2:9:15
Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands so that the word of God may not be reviled. Titus 2:3-5
…But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 1 Pet. 3:4
Strength and dignity are her clothing and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her. Prov. 31:25-27
Women controlled by the Spirit aren’t avoided during “that time of the month,” people still want to hang around them. They still speak with gentleness (Prov.15:4), they still live with self-control, and they don’t take out their frustrations on unsuspecting victims (Prov. 29:11). They realize their identity is in Christ, no matter what their hormones are doing, and they want to represent Him well and do His will.
We have a Savior who was tempted in every way but overcame it all, even suffering an excruciating death on the cross for ALL our sins, even the PMS ones (1 Pet. 3:18). He died for our hormonal fluctuations, our moods and our PMS “blues.” He died so that we could be victorious over these things, so they would not defeat us, even when our bodies tell us we’re not able to overcome. Christ’s power is stronger than any hormones, irritations, or cravings our bodies might throw at us!
So what do you do when PMS seems too much to bear? As Nancy Leigh DeMoss said, “HALT!” If you’re HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired), be on guard because you’re more likely to sin. The same is true if you’re PMSing. Step back and realize you’re fighting a war with your flesh and the only way to fight is with the Holy Spirit. Praise the Lord that Christ crucified our fleshly desires and we no longer have to live in the flesh but we can now walk in the Spirit (Gal. 5:22-24).
While we’ll always be at war against the cravings of the flesh (Gal.5:16) and PMS sometimes seems to be the biggest battle, we must be prepared to fight. So throw away your sin waiver, go in with the armor of God, with His Word ingrained in your heart (Ps.119:11), and with constant prayer in the Spirit (Eph.6:10-20)!
We can win the PMS war!