As I was browsing through the MSN.com homepage the other day, I noticed an article about 8 friends every woman needs. They were friends like the fashionista, the partner in crime, the “down to have a good time” friend, the workout friend, the comedian, and the boy magnet. These are the kind of friends I used to think I needed as well. I used to think I had to have everything in common with them otherwise our friendship wouldn’t last. But my mom always told me, “If you both have a common bond in Christ then that’s all you need for a solid friendship.” When she would tell me this, I would just roll my eyes and brush it off as her being uberspiritual and just too old to understand. But as the years have gone on by, I’ve realized Mom really does know best.
The friends that will last a life-time, make you a godlier person, and bring you the most joy are kind of like makeup essentials. Once you’ve found the right shade, which color makes your brown eyes stand out more, or gives you the best coverage, you stick with what works for you because it brings out the best and makes you a better you. Finding the right types of friends do the same and can mean more to your relationship with God than you ever thought possible!
1. The “Neutrogena Healthy Skin Foundation” Friend
This makeup essential makes you be honest with your face. You have to know if you have oily or dry skin, need more coverage for acne or wrinkles, and what shade of skin you have. The foundation friend is the same way. She makes you get real with yourself and she’ll be honest with you, in love of course (Eph. 4:15). She helps you know what you need to work on but also helps you improve your imperfections.
“Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted,
but an enemy multiplies kisses.” Prov. 27:5-6
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.” Prov.27:6
She’s not out to make you feel bad about yourself but desires you to continue on in the Lord’s will, continuingly becoming a godly woman. Between Sarah, Katie, Gabrielle and I, we’ve all been the foundation friend at one time or another. It’s partly how I know they love me. They’re willing to be honest with me, even if it might temporarily hurt my feelings, because they know it’s what’s best for me. When they rebuke me, it’s always in love.
2. The “Almay Intense i-Color Eye Shadow” Friend
What’s the purpose of eye shadow? It enhances women’s most beautiful asset and helps bring out the natural beauty, no matter what color or shape they have. If you’re wanting to step of your make-up game or try something new, what do you do? You get a flattering, fun shade of eye shadow. It helps bring out the best in you. It’s the same with this kind of friend. She helps spur you on to becoming a godlier person, to refinement in the Lord, and towards more love for others.
“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” Prov. 27:17
“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,” Heb. 10:24
All Christians are to help each other grow. Since we are children of God, we are the only ones who have the Spirit to help each towards becoming of one mind and unified. For me, Katie is one of my eye-shadow friends. She sharpens me like no other, she pushes me to godliness and most of the time doesn’t even know she’s doing it. But through her love for the Lord and continual growth in Him, she helps me desire to be holier. She helps make me a better woman.
That’s what’s so great about the eye-shadow friend, she not only brings out the best in you but she continues to make you better, year after year.
3. The Maybelline Great Lash Mascara Friend
When you have time for only one makeup essential, what do you usually go for? The Old-faithful, mascara. You can trust it above all other makeup items and you never leave home without it.
“Women must likewise be dignified, not malicious gossips, but temperate, faithful in all things.” 1 Tim. 3:11
“The godly give good advice to their friends; the wicked lead them astray.” Prov. 12:26
“The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.” Prov. 27:9
The mascara friend is always there for you. She’s faithful and reliable. When you need her, she makes time for you to vent, cry on her shoulder, or just listen to what the Lord has been teaching you. She’s the opposite of a flaky friend. You can count on her yes being yes and her no being no.
She can be trusted with anything you tell her and whatever she tells you can be trusted as wisdom and good counsel because she is walking with the Lord. Gabrielle is my mascara friend. When I need godly advice, a solid shoulder to cry on, or a prayer warrior, she’s the most faithful friend.
4. The “CoverGirl Outlast All Day Lipcolor” Friend
Lipstick, stain, or gloss, color is designed to stay with you sip after sip, bite after bite. Some claim to be long lasting but there’s few that actually back up their claims. Long lasting friends are even more rare and harder to find than a long lasting lipcolor.
“A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.” Prov. 17:17
“There are ‘friends’ who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.” Prov 18:24
Loyal friends stick with you through thick and thin, through all your bad attitudes and all your good ones. Through your spiritual lows and highs, the lipstick friend is there. She’s stands up for you, prays for you, and battles for you when you’re too spiritually exhausted. Thankfully Sarah, Katie, and Gabrielle are all lipstick friends. They’ve been with me through the worst of times and the best. They’ve battled spiritually for me when I didn’t know if I could handle anymore. Because of their loyality to the Lord above all else, they’re the most loyal of friends.
5. The “Dior Ultra-Radiant Blush” Friend
Whether it’s pink, mauve, or berry, blush makes your whole face look brighter and warmer. It compliments your complexion and brings out your natural beauty.
“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” Prov. 17:17
“He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.” Prov. 17:9
“She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” Prov. 31:26
“For the despairing man there should be kindness from his friend; So that he does not forsake the fear of the Almighty.” Job 6:14
We all need a blush friend! She’s encouraging, loving, and full of kindness. When you need a pick-me-up, she’s there. When you’re around her, you feel at peace and you know her love for you and those around her. The Holy Spirit is continually working in her life so that she exhibits all the fruits of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22).
Just as bad make-up choices (tangerine lipstick, 70’s blue eye shadow, and hot pink blush on a pale face) can ruin even the most beautiful face, bad friends ruin the most well-intentioned heart. The friends may seem nice and be accepting of you but do they point you to the Lord? Do you both spur each other on in spiritual maturity?
“Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.’” 1 Cor.15:33
“The righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.” Prov. 12:26
Godly friends make you godlier, and ungodly friends make you more ungodly. If you are constantly surrounded by bad friends, they will never help you in your growth with the Lord.
“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Prov.13:20
As all the essential makeup items sharpen your look and bring out your natural beauty, the essential friends sharpen your relationship with the Lord and with others. Friendships that last a lifetime are those that hold you accountable, full of prayer and encouragement, are trustworthy, and make you into a more inwardly beautiful person.
“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” Ecc. 4:9-12