Life is full of different decisions: which school to go to, which job to take, what degree to pursue, what church to join, who to date, who to marry. It seems like life is just one big circle of never ending decisions. Each choice bringing new people, new circumstances, new doors opened. Each choice changing your life: for better or for worse. Each choice a possibility to do what’s right or what’s wrong. There seems to be so much weight on the decisions you make. So how in the world do you make the right ones?
How do you let go of worrying about making the wrong choice and move towards God-trusting, faith-founded, wise decisions? How do you make good decisions with confidence?
The first step to making good decisions is learning to trust God and His commands. The only way to do that is by getting to know Him.
Hang Around God
How do you become more like the people you look up to? You spend time with them. The more you hang around them the more you become like them. As the old saying goes, “you are who you hang around.” To make wise, godly decisions, you need to get to know the One from whom all wisdom and knowledge comes. The more you read God’s Word, the more you’ll become more like Him and the better your decisions will be (Ps.32:8; Prov.28:5).
Look at God’s Track Record
To know if you can trust God, you have to examine your life to see how He’s treated you. Knowing God’s track record helps you have faith in Him. Faith brings about obedience because what you have faith in determines what decisions you’ll make.
One reason Eve began to doubt God and made a really bad decision was because Satan tried to tell her lies about God’s character and commands. She didn’t really trust God’s character. He still does that to this day and many times it works. This is why you have to read the Bible so that you can know the truth. Scripture is God’s way of revealing His character and will for us. So when Satan tries to get you to doubt God’s goodness and wisdom then you can combat him with the truth of God’s Word.
Keeping a prayer journal is a great way to see God’s goodness and presence in your life. Write down your prayer requests and periodically go back through them to see which ones God has answered. Trust me, you’ll find out God’s track record is pretty amazing!
Pray A LOT!
Prayer is how we talk things out with God. It’s our chance to tell Him what we need and ask His advice. How do you get the wisdom to make the right decision? You must talk with God and ask Him for it. If you pray for wisdom and God’s will to be revealed, with complete faith, He’s always faithful to answer. (Col.1:9;Phil. 4:6)
Talk With Godly People
Anytime I have a big life decision, I seek the advice of those I respect and trust. Godly counsel can be one of the ways God gives you wisdom to make the right decisions in your life but you also have to listen to that advice (Prov.12:15;19:20). Now you don’t have to do everything people tell you but a wise person knows they need more wisdom and through listening to the advice of godly people they can get even more. Only unwise people don’t listen to counsel but instead lose their way. (Prov.11:14)
If you’re wondering about whether to keep dating your current relationship interest, talk it out with your godly friends and family. They can give you different viewpoints, and they’ll help you grow in wisdom and knowledge of God’s will. (Prov.9:9)
Don’t Live in the Land of “What-Ifs”
You can’t live in the land of What-ifs because you’ll never leave. They never go away and you’ll be constantly in a state of worry or stress. Sometimes you’ve just got to make the most informed, prayed-up decision you can and leave it in God’s hands. The great thing about doing that is your leaving it in the hands of the one who is Most Sovereign. I made so many mistakes during in college and for a long time I lived in a state of guilt and worry because I thought I may have ruined my life. But I’ve realized that God uses even our worst mistakes for His glory. Does it make the wrong decisions okay? No. But God is sovereign over all our decisions, good or bad.
Don’t Base Everything on How You “Feel”
Are you feeling “unrest” about going to one college that just so happens to be 3 hours away from your boyfriend? The college has the best program for your degree and they’ve offered you a scholarship. Wisdom says this is a good choice while feelings say you shouldn’t go to the school because it would take you away from your boyfriend.
You may feel “peace” or “unrest” about making certain decisions but before you trust that feeling, look into WHY you’re feeling this way. There are usually facts leading you to feel that way. Why are you feeling unrest? Why are you feeling peace?
Find the facts that have led to these emotions. You don’t need to throw away your emotions, but you do need to consider the source of the emotions and whether you can trust that source. After you’ve examined the facts, see if they line up with Scripture and bring God glory. Then make your decision based on that, not a “feeling” or a “hunch.”
Making the right decision doesn’t have to be a huge, emotionally exhausting, difficult ordeal. Believe me, I used to worry about whether or not I should go to a certain college, take a job, or even go to one party over another. I didn’t want to make the wrong choice and potentially derail my life because I picked wrong. But now, as I’ve grown in my faith, decisions seem to be far less dramatic or difficult because I know God’s in control. Whatever decision I make I trust that God will work it for my good and His glory. I’ve learned that if I make a decision based upon God’s wisdom then I know He’ll lead me on the right path.
God can give you the same peace and confidence when you’re making a decision. Just get to know God, read the Bible, go to Him in prayer, and base your decision on the facts. And if you ever need advice on what to do, ask your godly friends. If you don’t have anyone you can really talk things out with, we are always just an email away. Ask us! 🙂 We may not have all the answers, but we know where all the answers can be found (2 Pet. 1:3).