In last week’s Modern Family episode, “Virgin Territory,” it was discovered that 17-year-old Haley, a high school senior, has been having sex with her boyfriend for a while. Her father struggles to cope with the revelation and react as a cool Dad should… even going so far as to utter the line to his sexually active daughter, “whatever seems right to you.”
The secular world is up in arms about this episode, pointing out that not all teens are having sex, nor are all teens ready to have sex, nor should they be! In a world of STDs, teen pregnancy and increasing depression – sex comes at a high price for teens. One commentator said, “I don’t believe that every high school senior is out there having sex, is ready to have sex or needs to feel that 17 or 18 is the appropriate age to have sex because he or she saw it on prime-time TV. Go ahead and flame me, all you parents who justify your lack of parenting with lame lines like “All the kids are doing it.” Here’s a news flash: They aren’t. And maybe yours wouldn’t be either if you had taught them about responsibility and consequences.”
As Christians, what are we saying on the subject of teen sex? Is it the same hands-off message of “just don’t” and “because the Bible says so,” or are we taking the time to sit down with our children, our friends children and their friends and have an honest conversation about God’s plan for sex? It is absolutely the parents responsibility to speak into their children about sex, but it is also the responsibility of the church. What are you doing to proclaim the truth about sexuality? What are the struggles in your church/Christian circles regarding teen sex? What has worked in talking to teens? What hasn’t?