50 Shades of …Porn??

50shadesofpornI can’t review an hour of tweets in my twitter feed without seeing something about the newest thing in ‘romance reading’ … the book “50 Shades of Grey.” A fan favorite that is sweeping the nation has already been optioned for movie rights. Author EL James has written a triology of mommy porn that is the latest addiction of housewives everywhere.

The secular news network ABC calls it “graphic and harsh” and “hard-core porn.” A tale of a young innocent girl with an older man who teaches her sexual submission with pain and bondage. The question that has news channels buzzing is “why?” Why are a generation of young moms, raised as feminists, sexually free, and economically empowered drawn to a story of a girl who gives away all of her rights to a man? While ’50 Shades of Grey’ is the latest and most shocking example, Newsweek’s recent cover story, “Spanking Goes Mainstream,” author Katie Roiphe looks at the cultural trend of bright young women willingly engaged in BDSM relationships: 50 Shades of Grey, Lena Dunham’s HBO series Girls and even the wedding night of teen heart throbs Bella and Edward in the 4th Twilight movie.

Feminists are up in arms – some applauding the trend because women have the freedom to do anything they want in the bedroom, while others state that choosing sexual submission is a huge step back for women. What isn’t currently being heard is the voice of Christians in all this upheaval. Is this issue really that big of a deal? What should God-honoring men and women do? How should Christian leaders speak out about this issue? What should you say to your neighbor who is reading the book? How do we protect our daughters and sons from the effects of this trend?

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8 thoughts on “50 Shades of …Porn??

  1. I have been waiting for someone in the Christian Blogsphere to speak out about this book! This new book craze really disturbs and saddens me… I know many women, most of them active Christians, who are loving reading the 50 Shades series. Most of them say its “not for the sexual content” but for the “incredible character development” of the story. Why then do the they admit to not purchasing the actual book, but instead are purchasing it on their E-readers, and hoping no one can see what they are reading? To me, women reading this book for the “character development” is like men saying they are reading Playboy for the articles. 50 Shades appeals to a women’s sexuality through words, taking the reader into the character’s emotions, like visual forms of porn appeal to a man’s sexuality, tapping into their physical lust. Just about every review I have read from women who have read this book, say they have had to wake their husband up at least once during the night after/while reading as they were so sexually aroused. I have a feeling these same women would be highly offended if their husbands woke them up for similar favors after being sexually stimulated from other females/sources, whether explicit movies, pictures, websites, etc….
    Heb 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
    For me, anything outside the relationship of me and my husband that sexually stimulates either of us is very dangerous ground, and a slippery slope, and therefore should be avoided.
    What are people going to do when finished with the Shades Trilogy? Probably go back and reread the series, but how many times can that be satisfying? It can quickly become a slippery slope deeper into deviant forms of sexual arousal. Like marijuana is considered a “gateway” drug, I fear 50 Shades could become a “gateway” door leading women into unhealthy sexual appetites and avenues.

    • Hi Amy, I thought your post was great. I like how you likened the book to a “gateway” as with marijuana being a “gateway” drug.
      Keep speaking up for what is Godly and helping us ladies, blessings.

  2. Thank you. Thank you for writing this post. I had been a little curious about this book, because of it’s recent popularity. Thank you for making me want to run far away from ever reading this book. So sad that people would want to read it.

  3. To answer your questions directly, I wouldn’t say anything to my neighbor unless she asked me what I thought. However, I would have a very serious and detailed conversation with any daughter of mine who was reading this, and it would involve a close reading analysis in the truest English literature tradition.

    I honestly believe that Christian married couples should be having the best sex on the planet, and having it frequently. It is a sacred act that unites them spiritually and emotionally, releases tensions, balances hormones, and expresses true love at the deepest possible level. But this can only happen when they approach sex unselfishly, motivated out of love and a passion that is pure, not out of selfish lust or desire for domination. Whichever party is dominating in BDSM, the whole object of the activity is about power, not about love. The enemy has been propagating lies for centuries that this kind of thing is somehow an expression of love or empowerment and that either extreme makes it okay for women. It’s not okay for ANYONE, and I personally believe Christian leaders should stand against twisting the beautiful passion of married sex in this way. How they take a stand will depend on their specific ministry, but no pastor or minister should let this stuff slide.

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