Two months ago, Emily Maynard, ABC’s newest Bachelorette, made a startling claim, “Every girl wants to feel protected!” She said this on the heels of kicking a contestant off the show after he said something rather rude about her daughter. Emily was in “Mama-Bear” mode and was not to be trifled with! After she expressed her anger towards the banished beau, she proceeded to interrogate all the guys to whom she had grown close, asking them why they didn’t protect her…why they didn’t stand up for her when this jerk was being rude to her. Her reasoning? “Every girl wants to feel protected!”
Even just last week, heroes emerged after the devastation of the Aurora shooting. Stories emerged about three boyfriends who died as they acted as human shields in order to protect their girlfriends from the bullets, saving their lives. These men have and should be remembered and honored for their brave actions in protecting the women they love. Biblical Womanhood featured a post (click here to read it) addressing this topic: women are looking for real men, heroes…the knight in shining armor, willing to be that protector of women.
While these stories match up with your quintessential Disney plot of a knight in shining armor saving the damsel in distress in the knick of time, it’s against what our culture would like for us to believe about women. Women are independent, strong, and do not need to be saved by any man; we protect ourselves. We can get our own doors, move our own furniture, and kill our own bugs. The latest string of movies and TV Shows (Once Upon a Time, Mirror, Mirror; Snow White and The Huntsman, and Brave) portray damsels in distress who wield their own swords, do their own fighting, and battle to defeat the bad guys or get themselves out of the messes which they’ve made.
But then, when rubber meets the road or, in Aurora’s lamentable case, when the gunshot’s are heard, women celebrate bravery in their men. They say “We want to be protected.” So, which is it? What do women really want: Protection or Independence?
What do YOU think?