Myself and two friends are looking at getting breast augmentation in February. I was wondering if you ladies could bring that up as a topic on your website and could you please give me your opinion?
A Girl Considering Plastic Surgery
Is a woman who lost a lot of weight and gets her boobs tacked up wrong? The woman who has a double mastectomy and gets replacement boobs? The woman whose husband pressures her to get them to please him? There are so many scenarios surrounding the boob job question, with situations as unique as the women that want them.
It’s important to remember that this isn’t just a new shade of lipstick or a hair dye that will fade. It is SURGERY. It carries risks and a long list of potential complications. As children of God, whose bodies are dedicated to serving and glorifying Him – it’s important that careful, prayerful consideration be given before risking your life (God’s life, actually) on an elective surgery. I don’t think there’s anything inherently sinful about elective procedures, but I do think it isn’t a choice to be made lightly.
As a girl who struggles to keep her identity solely in Christ, I know I would have to pray long and hard and seek extensive wise counsel to make sure I was making such a choice for a healthy reason, and not to give me identity – which I should find in Christ alone. I know a lot of women with boob jobs, they still love Jesus, serve him and glorify him. It wasn’t a sin for them. But it could be for you. It’s a question that can only be answered between you and Christ (and your husband, if you have one).
Just remember, no matter what your decision, that you are overwhelmingly and unconditionally loved by God. No surgery or choice you make could ever make him love you less. You are his beautiful daughter, created for a magnificent purpose, designed with careful intention and bought with the blood of Christ.
Make your decision with those truths in mind.
I would be lying to say that I’ve never thought of cosmetic surgery. I think most women in our first world, privileged, media-consumed state have at least entertained the thought of body enhancement if not actually been under the knife. Plastic surgery is much like a two-sided coin; on one hand, I think it’s an unnecessary means to achieve something which time spent under the Word will only achieve. Often times, women are unhappy with their appearance because of the Barbie-doll syndrome perpetuated by a narcissistic society. We have bought into the lie that we are not “fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Ps 139:15) On the other hand, my heart feels for the woman who feels lesser because she is not as feminine as she would like to be, who by a simple procedure can gain the confidence our society has stripped from her because she was made to feel “less than” anything their standard deemed attainable.
I think when coming to the decision of whether or not to go under the knife, one must ask a few questions:
1. What am I saying about God when I get a boob job? Is the clay saying to the Potter, “You made a mistake here?” When I have cosmetic surgery, am I not taking matters into my own hands? Does the image of God, in which I was created, display itself through my outward appearance or is it more about my heart’s attitude of rest and trust in a sovereign Creator God who absolutely loves me and wouldn’t hold any good thing from me…including 32 DD?
2. What am I saying about myself? By whose standard do I measure myself, the world’s or God’s? By having surgery, do I not raise the world’s standard of perfection above God’s? Do I believe I am defined by a never-changing God? (Ps. 139; Eph.1;4:23-24) Or am I defined by an ever-changing, hedonistic world?
3. What am I saying about my influences? If you’re in a place where you need to have plastic surgery to feel like “one of the girls,” you should probably find new friends. One year in college, I worked at a department store in the luxury purses section. I had never owned a luxury purse and I was surviving the deprivation splendidly. Then, I started to surround myself with people who were so singularly focused on living the elite life. Purses were no longer a matter of convention; they were statements. The longer I worked there, the stronger the desire for one became. I actually picked out several I wanted to buy once I saved like six paychecks. But, I was so largely influenced by those around me that what they saw as important I eventually thought the same way. We’re all influencers and, as such, we’re equally able to be influenced. If you’re finding yourself desiring things that seem contrary to God’s Word or previous concerns in your life, check your friend base. It may be that with a change of influences, the desire to alter yourself to their standard will diminish.
Bottom line: Are boob jobs sinful? I am not God, nor do I want to be, so it’s hard for me to answer that question right out. What I would have you focus on is the motivation behind why you feel the need for one. Ask yourselves the above questions and seek the Lord’s wisdom on the matter. He’ll show you!
After having a baby and breastfeeding taking its toll on my chest area, I have certainly entertained the idea of getting plastic surgery down the road. It’s a difficult topic and one that Scripture doesn’t give a clear answer to, but I think it comes down to your motives: are you doing it to make your body more attractive to men? To keep up with world’s standards of beauty? Or, are you getting new breasts after cancer, years of breastfeeding or after an accident marred their appearance?
As a single woman, what are you using the boob job for? If it’s to be more attractive in the world’s eyes, then I think a breast augmentation can be sinful. If it’s so a man, who isn’t your husband, will find you more attractive, then that’s a wrong motive because you’re purposefully trying to get him to focus on and lust after a part of you that is only meant only for your husband. If a man’s “love” is based upon his lust for you, then it will fade as soon as wrinkles start appearing, cellulite dimples your thighs, or your belly starts pouching out after pregnancy. True love isn’t based upon physical attraction.
Another thing to consider is: Will this be a God-honoring way to spend thousands of dollars? God calls us to be good stewards of the money He gives us, so is a breast augmentation the best way for you to spend His money? (Prov. 3:9;Lk. 16:10-12;12:33)
Eventually, all the affects of plastic surgery will fade away and what will be left is your heart, soul, and mind; these are what are truly beautiful for a lifetime. (Prov. 31:30) Plastic surgery will never truly help fill that emotional void or bring you true happiness; complete contentment can only be found through seeking Christ and deep relationship with Him. As believers, our main focus should be glorifying God, serving the body of Christ, and being witnesses for the Gospel as children of God. As you’re considering surgery, ask yourself, “Will a boob job help me honor God with my body?
A Christian Man’s Thoughts
As a man, I’ve got several different opinions for women in different situations. For starters, I’m not referring to women having plastic surgery to repair damage done by an accident or breast cancer. I’m talking about women who for solely cosmetic reasons want to get a breast augmentation. Second, I don’t think there is a clear-cut answer for all women, but rather the situation determines whether or not it’s prudent or sinful.
Motive for and usage of a breast augmentation are the main things that make it either appropriate or sinful. For single women, these are some motives for surgery: feeling sexy (or more feminine), desiring attention or to attract a man. As a single woman dates, bigger breasts will play a part because they generally bring attention to a woman’s body and can cause possible future boyfriends to look at a woman in a very different, sexual way. A single woman who gets a breast augmentation will likely want to show them off to her possible boyfriends, leading them to lust after her. It’s simply not the godly way to attract the opposite sex.
Several years ago, I saw a single, Facebook acquaintance that got a breast enlargement in her 20s and I thought; She was a pretty girl before but now she moved into the lust-enticing kind of look. I have no idea of her motives, but the results from a man’s perspective were unmistakable. Usually breast implants don’t make a woman prettier, but it does make men think of her more sexually. Getting your hair done doesn’t do this to a guy; getting bigger breasts does. While for women they may both be ways of being more attractive, one does so in a way that helps men lust after her.
On the other hand, I think the situation of a married woman is very different. While she may have to work harder to be modest around other males, the target is her current husband. Having him think about her in a sexual way is not sinful; the sexual attraction between husband and wife is a good thing. But, I don’t think it’s a healthy idea for a husband to ask his wife to get a breast augmentation. A husband should love his wife like God does; for her inner self, her gentle and quiet spirit. (1 Pet. 3:4) If a wife decides to get enhancement surgery then it should be as an act of love to her husband, not so that he will love her more. I don’t see nearly the same improper motives in this case but it should be a prayerful decision between husband, wife, and God.